the courage to wear that dress that she likes...

May 22, 2018 - When we talk about violence against women we generally refer to rape or beatings. There are, however, other forms of abuse, those "invisible" Gillne, which should not be underestimated and are often a prelude to physical violence. Small or large daily gestures that condition the fair sex. The woman is struck in her psyche, in her self-esteem, in her soul.
Between the walls of the house, it happens that man, to prevail in an argument, slams the door, breaks a plate, screams at close range and insults. They are all intimidating attitudes that cause discomfort in the person who suffers them and that should not be tolerated because they represent indirect violence.

Another widespread "scheme" is represented by isolation. To make one's partner feel guilty because he has a social life, forbid him the freedom to cultivate any friendship with male persons. Or, more simply, spend an afternoon with your mother or go out for an aperitif with your friends. Man tries to erase all relationships, creating a dependency relationship in which his victim is unable to say no for fear.

For the same dynamic, the woman does not have the courage to wear that dress that she likes so much because the partner finds it "too sexy" blue and green bridesmaid dresses, even though in reality it is not so much. And even if he loves sports, he renounces the gym because he "does not trust those who go there".

All these behaviors are justified with the most disparate excuses: a too stressful period at work, a trauma immediately when young, a parental lack. But there are no valid reasons for "letting go". Because a man who loves us above all respects us. When it does not happen, the relationship must be truncated.

Even outside the walls of the house, a woman is not immune to "invisible violence" and endures - almost like a tax to pay - sexist comments and vulgar appreciation of her appearance. How many times a girl while walking is harassed by a man behind the wheel? And how many times while he moves among the crowd at the disco is touched by a stranger against his will?